Teach Children to be Happy and Optimistic
Start from yourself Watch yourself on how you react to things. How do you view an action? Do you maintain a happy environment in your home? Your child’s nature is mostly built on the above circumstances. You also need to introspect on how you are reacting to situations. Allow risk-taking to a certain extentAllow risk-taking to a certain context If your child wants to do something risky, but acceptable, don’t refrain from doing it. Sit with them and explain to them how it harms them and leave it for them to decide whether they choose to do it or not. They need to learn by accepting the risk and experiencing the situation. If they fail, they learn better.
Make them embrace failure Parents today teach their children that failure is a setback and they should be ashamed of it. Instead, you need to help them see failure as a challenge and help them to win over it.
Be a friend rather than a parent Embrace parenthood because everyone does not get the chance. Life is uncertain and so enjoy being a family to the fullest. Treat them like a friend. Play, have fun and create a wonderful childhood for your kid. When you create a happy environment at home, your child will find solace in you.
Source: KangoKids
Parenting Tips for ADHD
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Kids with ADHD face many challenges, however. children can benefit from person-centered or tailor-made approaches.Give structure. Providing a daily schedule may lessen sudden distractions. It can also introduce responsibility into a child’s life.
Instill exercise. This can burn off excess energy and lower the risk of depression and anxiety.
Break tasks down. For some ADHD there are tasks that can be difficult or complex. Where it is possible, break them into achievable goals.
Keep distractions away or to a minimum. If a child is easily distracted, it pays to keep their surroundings uncluttered. Depending on the child’s preferences, radios or televisions could be turned down or off.
Source: Medical News Today
Teaching Kids Respect
STAY CALM Do not overreact to seemingly disrespectful behavior. The child may be not paying attention or doesn’t know the behavior is disrespectful.IDENTIFY THE CAUSE If a child’s need is not being met, teach them skills and vocabulary to address their own needs instead of scolding them.
MODEL BEING RESPECTFUL We cannot teach respect by being disrespectful. Respect your child as an individual with their own preferences. Allow them the freedom to make some decisions.
USE POSITIVE DISCIPLINE Use non-punitive discipline to teach, not to punish. Model how to be respectful even when others make mistakes. Remember, we all make mistakes. There is no need to be cruel.
EARN, NOT DEMAND RESPECT Do not demand your child to be respectful just because you are the parent. True respect can only be earned, but not demanded.
APOLOGIZE FOR MISTAKES A mature, respectful grownup accepts responsibility and apologizes when he or she makes mistakes. Model this.
Source: Parenting for Brain
How to be a Good Mom
Forget at least half of what your mother taught you Times change. Your grandmother raised your mother in a very different world than she raised you. The same holds true for raising your child.Use social media as a form of therapy Post the good, the bad, and the ugly. The comments you receive will likely be more than just smiley faces or thumbs up. You will see fewer little tears or mouth-open emojis. and more actual words.
Form a Tribe You don’t have to do it all alone. There is no shame in asking for help. Surround yourself with the best… and you will be at your best for your kids.
Socialize like a kid One of the best ways to be a better mom is to have some flexibility in your day. And one of the best ways to be a good mom is to incorporate fun activities for you and your child into each and every day even if just for an hour or two.
Put some personal time on the agenda You deserve a break. And you shouldn’t feel guilty for asking for one. A short break from your kids doesn’t mean you love them any less. In fact. It’s because you love them that you need the break.
Schedule a “date night” Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the beautiful chaos that is raising children. But you can’t get lost in it. Remember why it is you fell in love
It’s ok to have a bad “mom” day Much like a bad ‘hair day. you will have bad ‘mom’ days… and it’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up. Nobody is perfect.
Source: Develop Good Habits
Telling Children About Divorce
NEITHER PARENT IS TO BLAME “This is something Mom and Dad have decided after a long time of trying to make things work better.” If possible, talk to the children as a couple, and with both parents prepared to work as a team, and convey unified caring and concern.NOT CHILD’S FAULT/CONTROL “This is an adult decision and has nothing to do with anything you (referring to the child) did or said.” *Help children understand they also can’t control the decision to separate/divorce by behaving “extra nicely.”
OK TO LOVE BOTH PARENTS The children are free to continue loving each parent fully without fear of betraying the other parent or feeling disloyal. ‘As a parent, this can be a challenge, but it helps protect the children from pain and maladjustment.
ALL FEELINGS ARE NORMAL “A lot of different feelings are normal. We all will feel sad, angry. worried, and maybe curious about the future.” `All feelings are normal – welcome and listen to all feelings and try to help the children no matter how they feel.
STILL A FAMILY, JUST CHANGING “We’ll still be your Mom and Dad. No one is going away (as long as this is true), and Mom and Dad will love you (referring to the child) as much as ever. ” If a parent is moving some distance away, reassure children that they’ll see that parent regularly, and explain how that might be accomplished.
Source: Majeski Law